To all the Single Ladies… and of course Gentlemen (Part 3)

Continuation…

Love is the only perfect thing on earth (hint: this is because it comes from God). Love comes in three shapes and you have to know the difference between them. This will prepare you for your next relationship or open your eyes in your current one. Think, “do I want the one-way kind of love?” Let me just answer that now with everyone saying no. “Do I want the mutual love?” Sure, this one sounds good, but this kind of love is based on superficial things such as your environment and circumstances meaning it can change. This is a worldly kind of love. Finally, “do I want the kind of love were two become one and move forward together toward God?” I think you know the answer right now. The last one where he or she is going to build you up so high to God that you both will reach out to Him together. Go with the one that God gives you, because that is going to be the person who hears God’s voice with you. Then when God says move you can move together instead of fighting.

Now here comes the last part that you have to do. You’ve seen him or her going to church, they have their Bible open, and are praying. But everybody can look good on the outside it’s what’s on the inside that you can’t always see. Before you start dating or even thinking that you like them, you should do your research. Now this does not mean that you go and cyber stock them, or really stock them. If you do, they will never go out with you and you’ll probably be given a restraining order instead. What I mean is you should go and talk to their friends and family, get their opinions. Ask the people that they associate with most those are good people who will know that person. I know this sounds creepy, and maybe also stockerish, but I’m not saying go and tell their friends that you’re taking them out to dinner and you’re going to talk about that possible crush. You can be a lot more casual than that, maybe a coffee or just a passing conversation in the hallway. You’re doing this to make sure their relationship with God, family, and friends is good if they’re all good then it’s less likely that, that person is faking who they are showing themselves to be.

Now let’s recap. Drop the pen. Let God pick it up and let Him write a name and a story that you didn’t even know was possible. You have to be patient, because God may not always write your story as fast as you want it written. I understand you want to be able to flip to the end and understand where you’re going to finish and then just flip back. You can’t do that, unfortunately. God doesn’t start with writing your end and showing it to you and then writing your middle. It doesn’t work that way. You need to let God do it in His own time, His timing is perfect, after all.

Don’t worry about how old you are getting or how old you are and thinking you’re still not married or you’re still not dating that perfect person. God has a plan and maybe at this point in your life you have to be single in order to run along the path that he’s laying out for you. When you do find him or her you’ve got to both be listening to God – together. Don’t close your ears after you found him or her. Don’t start thinking “Ah! I found them. I’m safe. I can just go and live my life the way I want, thanks God. See you later.” Because at that time you will be forcibly grabbing the pain back from God and trying to write a beautiful story that will only turn out to be horror story. If you’re anything like me, I hate horror stories, so I’m going to hand that pen to God and just tell Him, “you take it from here and I will do my best to follow you.” Tell Him that you trust him and whatever He has planned is the best plan there’s going to be.

It’s very simple, this world tells you if you are not with someone then there’s something wrong with you. The world is wrong there is nothing wrong with you. God is just waiting for you to be the best you, you can be so that He can prepare the best person for you. There is nothing wrong with being single there is only something wrong with the person who thinks that it’s wrong to be single.